It’s not accidental, that people in our life are segregated in so many ways. We don’t just merely stumble upon someone for no reason. I’ve realized lately that they’ll all have a place in your life. Sooner or later, they’ll find their niche in your small world.
The people in your life are separated into three different categories.
You have the sailors, the snorkelers and the deep-sea divers.
The sailors: They won’t touch the waters. They opt to stay inside the boat. These people are your acquaintances or surface ‘friends’, and they never make it deep.
Then are the snorkelers, these are the friends and who want to go deep, but don’t have the capacity to carry the weight and pressure. If they do make an attempt, they either drown or come back to the surface for oxygen.
Finally, talking about the deep-sea divers, these are the people who stay with you through storms and violent waters.
They are not afraid to dive into the deepest parts of the ocean floor. They promise to and stay with you, through the worst times. They earn your trust and reassure you that they aren’t out to hurt you. They aren’t afraid to call out your Bullshit. They are the people who are there for you, regardless of what happens.
Irrespective of how much you deny the need of these people, and agree to live a life independently, we all secretly know, we’re only going to be glad we met them.
They aren’t too tough to recognise. They usually become the first person to wipe your tears, or the last person standing to help you fight your fears.
There is another kind, yet I wouldn’t want them to be a part of one’s life.
They’re the ones for whom you’re the life boat. They’re the ones you’ll sink your own boat for, because of their stupidity. This might sound harsh, but Remove them from your life. Some of them might even consider you crucial in life, but they’re only going to weigh you down. They might not intend to, hence, it’s even harder to remove them from your life.
Yet they’re the parasites that absolutely never work in symbiosis, they only make you toxic and fragile. Be brave enough to leave them and smart enough to treasure the deep-sea divers in your life.
Don’t let them desensitize you and make you feel like you can live without some of the best things that could ever happen to you. Don’t give them power to drain you.
Author’s Note : Due to the recent turn of events in my life, I have been compelled to write this short piece so that those deep-sea divers know that I realise their value. For I am glad to know the various kinds of people and that most of them have found a niche in my small world too. Symbiotic or a-symbiotic, these connects have helped me grow. It makes me feel blessed and emotionally stronger, to have people with whom I can dare to share my hopes for the future, the dreams that I long for, and even the many disappointments life has thrown at me.
Don’t learn this lesson the hard way. Tell them what you need to tell them.